Sample CONSENT CARD or Code about sexual abuse and rape.
Designed to be short, easy to understand, easy to circulate. It can be copied into emails or attachments. It can be printed on one or two sides of a card or paper (help info on the back). It can be a postcard sized card for noticeboards. It can be spread by social media. A handful can be carried in purse or wallet to give away.
CONSENT CARD …………………………………..
SEX is wrong and illegal without CONSENT.
The word NO means NO. NO CONSENT.
SEXINESS does NOT signal CONSENT.
CONSENT means ‘YES’ beyond reasonable doubt.
CONSENT means speaking ‘YES’ or acting it out –
(place lover’s hand on breast/ genital = ‘YES you can touch me here’,
grasp lover’s penis, move it to entry place = ‘YES you can enter here’.)
CONSENT to one action does NOT consent to other different actions.
CONSENT does NOT mean just silence.
CONSENT does NOT mean just staying still.
CONSENT requires a clear head, not drunk or drugged.
REFUSAL does NOT need any screaming.
REFUSAL does NOT need any struggle.
REFUSAL can mean just silence, or just staying still.
JOKES, banter, do not excuse lack of consent. Rape, abuse is NOT funny.
After rape, abuse it can take a long time to speak up, even years.
The law accepts this ‘unfreezing’ time, as long as needed.
Reporting rape or abuse can be done anonymously.
Rape & abuse wrecks lives. It is NEVER a joke (except by survivors).
It is NEVER minor.
Help agencies and contacts to follow.